My children do not have very good grades. My daughter graduated with absolutley no true achievements other than graduation. I can only pray she works 10x harder at college. She wants to be an occupational therapist and I work at the only OT school in the state and I know how hard it is to get in. They expect stellar grades and extracurriculars. I guess that sounds more harsh than what I actually intend. She graduated highschool! She is going to college! I just worry- it's what we moms do.
My 13 year old, I have found out in the last 3 days, has been texting pictures of herself taken from a high angle so you can see down her tank tops, received texts (and actually I received it since I had taken her phone from her) that said "cum suck my dick" I responded to that text with these words "This is Macie's mother- if I ever catch you writing things like that to my daughter again I will hunt you down and you will wish you were dead". Harsh? Yes. Fair warning? Absolutely! Her older brother was twitching he was so angry and he said he was going to go beat the tar out of him. Her older sister was going to drive the getaway car. I am extremely proud that my older two are so protective of their sister- but why is my daughter doing this? I don't believe it's for attention because she is making every effort to hide it. (And almost succeeded if it weren't for the fact that I reserve the right to my children's cell phones at any and all times) She will be drug tested. There is a contact on her phone for the "Free weed hotline". We have not yet said anything to her because this child can lie to our faces and we are waiting to "ambush" her with what we know. I come from a long, long line of alcoholics and drug addicts and I will do ANYTHING necessary to nip this behaviour in the bud. Anything. I will not watch her turn into my suicidal sister, or my violent abusive brother. I thought that raising kids in a loving, two parent, non-abusive family was enough. Apparently it's not. I hurt, I'm angry and I feel like a complete and total failure. I know at this point, not many people are still reading my blog, but if ANYONE has any ideas that could help, I would appreciate it more than you could ever know.